Self Help & Success
Like a lot of people interested in self-development, I’ve read a lot of self-help classics. From popular books like Awaken the Giant Within, Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and The Magic of Thinking Big, to more obscure titles, I’ve read dozens of them.
Some of these books had a few helpful tips, but when it came to an actual process to get started to change our lives and be successful, most of the books failed to give much of anything.
A lot of them said visualize success, and affirm yourself with your thoughts and never let a negative thought get into your mind. But these things usually backfired and made me feel worse.
When you’re in the midst of depression, OCD or any other mental illness, reading –what you think, is what you become- adds a lot of fuel to the self-loathing and neuroticism.
I’m being harsh, I like a lot of self-help books. The difference is now I read books about mental health written by experts with MD’s or PhD’s.
Basically, the books said you must believe in yourself. But, the discussion always ended there- there was never any mention about what to do if you’ve always dealt low self-esteem.
“Just Believe in Yourself”
This piece of advice come from a good place, but it’s about as useful as telling people a starving person to just eat food.
And in my experience, you don’t have to believe in yourself to succeed with your goals. The much more important thing is to just do the work.
The 30th President of the USA, Calvin Coolidge, said it better than anyone:
Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and Determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “Press On” has solved and will always solve the problems of the human race.”
Whether you’re brimming with self-esteem or not, you can still force yourself to sit down and write 1000 words, list things on eBay, or work on other projects. It might be harder if you’re feeling depressed or anxious, but it’s completely doable to accomplish some stuff, even in these negative mind states.
As someone who’s dealt with a lot of self-loathing and depression, I’ve even found some benefits to these otherwise negative and painful mental states.
Why Low Self-Esteem is Good For Making Money Online
Self-grandiosity is common in humans, and it’s more common in people with big egos. If someone with delusional self-belief writes a few ebooks, but only gets a few sales, they’ll probably give up because the market doesn’t understand them.
Being stubborn and plunging headfirst into the projects is the best way to make progress. But, progress is rarely pretty, especially in the beginning.
Most of the time you’ll start off crawling and then limp along for a while- You won’t make 6 figures in your first month despite what the marketers tell you. At first the learning curve is steep and the sales are small. Most people quit here.
If you’ve been able to crawl your way through the days when your depression and anxiety are at the highest, then you already have all the tools you need to succeed online- creativity and grit.
Like developing better habits, making money on the internet is a long road. But if you’ve survived through the days of dealing with mental illness, then you can do it.
Case Study: Me
I’m not saying I’ve achieve an amazing level of success on the internet, but I have some momentum going.
For one, I’ve listed and sold thousands of things on eBay in the last 3 years:
Also, I started seriously selling on Amazon FBA. I completed a used book-flipping course (post) and now am making hundreds of dollars each month.
The most difficult, but rewarding project I’ve undertaken is self-publishing on Kindle.
I published my first book on Kindle back in December of 2016. It was called an Insider’s Guide to Curing Depression, and it took me a couple of weeks to write. I don’t think anyone has ever read even a page of it.
From December of 2016 to December of 2018 I released 18 Kindle ebooks, all over 4000 words. But, I made less than $40 total over the 2 years.
Then this January, I decided to really focus on Kindle. I released my first erotica story at the end of the month.
Since then I’ve released 22 erotica stories and have finally seen results. In the past week I’ve sold 36 copies of my stories- that’s more than $72 in profit. I made more money this week than I did from the combined first two years of publishing on Kindle.
Online Business is Good for Mental Health
Making money directly from my efforts, whether it be through eBay, Amazon FBA, or self-publishing, is rewarding. Each sale is a reminder that my own creativity, effort and hustle have positive results.
If you deal with low self-esteem and low self-image, but you can consistently make at least a few small sales and some money on the internet with your efforts, then that is objective truth that you’re capable of doing something.
And regardless of how bad you may feel at the moment, at least buy yourself a cup of coffee with your internet sales.